Fate. It’s an interesting, and for me at the moment an all-consuming, concept. Fate is defined as “The cause, force, principle, or divine will that predetermines events.” Another way to think of it is destiny, the definition of which is “the fixed order of things; invincible necessity.” I like that wording quite a bit “invincible necessity” something that no matter how hard you try to fight it will always win will always triumph over your will.
My Mother and I were discussing people we knew who seemed to want something so badly ,and in our estimation deserved to get what they wanted, but who never did. They never realized a dream they worked for tirelessly, they never got that promotion, had a baby, found true love, discovered a new element, or became a rocket scientist. Why? Why, if they deserved it, if they worked with everything they had at it, didn’t they achieve what they wanted? Fate. Destiny. The best we could come up with is that maybe they weren’t meant for those things. It’s a shame but what can be done about it? Nothing. Nothing can be done to change it.
So, I’m realizing that, while what I want may seem pedestrian compared to the things I listed above, it doesn’t make me any more fated to receive them. Just because what I want is smaller doesn’t mean I automatically get it. Not if “it wasn’t meant to be”. So, while some people may call it fate or destiny- as one of those people who just “wasn’t meant to” -I have to say it feels quite a bit more like doom.