#FURIOUSLYHAPPY It’s A Movement

 

Animal

This is the kind of happy I am talking about.

 

If you don’t read The Bloggess then you are probably too busy being a huge loser who nobody likes. Oh wait, switch that and reverse it- I’m the huge loser who nobody likes which is why I have so much time to read The Bloggess- you on the other hand, are probably very well liked and super popular. Anyway, the point of that is that you should read The Bloggess. Because I said so. Which is like, the best reason I ever. Also, it was the only reason I could think of right now since I am high on benedryl and what I suspect is a roofie laced tea from the sometimes sketchy girl who makes my tea, aka me.

Back to me. Wait, no, back to her. So, The Bloggess has had a rough six months. But instead of hating life and becoming a mess of depression, pills, cocaine, rehab, drunk driving, rehab, court, court, cocaine, court, alcohol, scram bracelet, court, “lost” passport in Paris, missed court date, cocaine, scram bracelet, jail, rehab, cocaine, jail, and rehab, she decided to give her last six months the finger by choosing to be #FURIOUSLYHAPPY. Bravo!

So, my last month or so has also not been as joyous as one might hope. Nothing tragic or monumental has happened. It’s just been a string of whatevers followed by this sucks and ending with what’s the point? And yesterday, I was feeling particularly like “My life is meaningless and these jeans make me look fat”  but then I read this and I thought “You know what, yes! Yes, I choose to be happy, and not just like care bears happy, I choose to be ferociously happy, like a Mama Bear when it defends it’s cub by killing a puma (I don’t know if this actually happens in nature), or like a killer whale after it eats a great white shark (this definitely happens in nature, because I saw it on the Discovery channel).”

And yes, sometimes life sucks and we have to deal with it. But we also get to decide how we continue on from those times when life sucks. And I love to be the boss of myself and I choose to continue on happily.

And you know something else? Most of my life I have been incredibly happy. Seriously. Like, a really happy girl. So people and circumstances don’t get to make me not be happy. They don’t get to decide. I do. And now I’m feeling really mad at those situations for trying to make me feel like “my life is meaningless and these jeans make me look fat” and succeeding at it. But they didn’t succeed for long, because The Bloggess came to my rescue. Like wonder woman- only more snarky and less half-naked. So now I’m determined to be #FURIOUSLYHAPPY and I think you should be too. Unless you are already just plain old happy in which case I expect you are probably covered. Although I’m pretty sure #FURIOUSLYHAPPY is way more fun than plain old happy because there is a level of craziness in it that just can’t be found in plain old happy. Also, someday you can tell your grandchildren that you were part of the #FURIOUSLYHAPPY movement and they will both fear and revere you. This is what people call a “win-win” only, I call it “win-win-wine” because, you know, of all the wine.

Were Laverne and Shirley Happy?

Laverne and Shirley Sing

They made an album- so they must have been happy!

I think this is an important questions to ask oneself. I am pondering this question more and more as I consider the fact that I might be moving in with  my sister soon. And I imagine it will be a lot like Laverne and Shirley. They always seemed happy to me. But were they really happy? Also, I’m wondering how long it took them to choreograph the dance they do at the beginning of the show- because I don’t think my sister will be willing to spend a lot of time learning a dance but I would really like to have a little something prepared for move-in day. Then all of our neighbors will think we are really crazy hip and be nervous to talk to us but then they will overcome that nervousness and bring us an assortment of baked goods to welcome us to the neighborhood. I can’t remember if that happened in Laverne and Shirley or not. But instead of Milwaukee we will live in Austin. In fact, I think people will be much more open to a dance number in Austin than in Milwaukee. I wonder if my sister remembers how to do a kick-ball-change?

Also, I really want to start putting the letter L on all my shirts. I guess my sister can too because both our names start with L but I would really feel more comfortable if that was just my thing. She probably won’t argue, she has to wear scrubs all the time anyway. Although if I was in the hospital and my nurse had the first letter of her name on all her scrub tops I would defnitely feel like I was getting better care. I bet I could sell that idea to hospitals and make a fortune.

I’m worried that Laverne and Shirley weren’t truly happy. I mean Shirley totally bailed on Laverne in the last season and I don’t want that to happen to me. (I think I’m Laverne and my sister is Shirely- she would say I was Shirley and she is Laverne but this is my blog so I’m kind of calling the shots) Who would jump rope with me and help me humiliate my nemesis “Big Rosie Greenbaum”? I’m just thinking worst case scenario here. I mean, if Laverne and Shirley were happy why did Shirley leave? (This is actually a real question if anyone knows the answer because I can’t remember).  I just don’t want the magic to fade from our totally awesome relationship. Maybe it was moving to Burbank that tore Laverne and Shirley apart- so if my sister and I avoid Burbank would should probably be ok. Right?

Also, we don’t have a Lenny and Squigy in this situation and I think they were a big part of the magic that was Laverne and Shirley. What if our apartment doesn’t have a Lenny and Squigy? Are we doomed? I feel like an awful lot is riding on the answers to these monumental questions. I have a plan of action though.

Step 1- Watch every season of Laverne and Shirley and analyze their behavior to make judgement on happiness.

Step 2- Write to Penny Marshall (Laverne) and Cindy Williams (Shirley) and ask them these questions. I think they will be able to help.

Step 3- Make sure my sister actually still wants to live with me after reading this post.

Step 4- Make decision and live with the consequences. No turning back.

1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 Schlemiel! Schlimazel! Hasenpfeffer Incorporated!

On This The Day Of My Birth

What does your birthday mean to you? Why is it such an important day? What  makes us so eager to celebrate and have others celebrate with us? Why is it so important to us that people remember that day?

My birthday was 3 weeks ago (and not today as the title of this blog would have you believe…) and I have been thinking about it quite a bit. It seemed a significant birthday to me, 25, quarter of a century old, but I went into it with low expectations. You see, I had deleted my Facebook account about a month before and I hardly thought that without that reminder anyone would remember. Surprisingly, many of my friends did. Even friends I wasn’t that close with texted or called me with happy wishes. More surprising than that was the fact that my very best friend in the entire world completely forgot. Forgot, and didn’t seem to be that fussed about forgetting. I’m telling you all of this so that you can understand a bit about why my thoughts have turned to birthdays recently. Feeling hurt about my best friend forgetting my birthday led me to question why it was I was so gutted that she forgot. What does a birthday really mean and why do people celebrate them ? When did we, as human beings, begin commemorating our day of birth, and why?

So, I did some research. I love research! It seems that for many cultures the idea of celebrating birthdays with family and friends began as a superstition that evil spirits, demons, etc. were more likely to target you on the anniversary of your birth and so family and friends would gather around you bringing with them all their happy thoughts and well wishes to protect you from the evil things. Due to this, many religions including Judaism and Christianity refrained from celebrating birthdays for centuries because they viewed it as a pagan practice. How far we have come from that, eh? In fact, today very few religious groups hold any particular stance on birthdays, preferring to leave it up to the individuals. That’s it. That’s how birthdays began. Obviously, like Christmas, Christians took a popular pagan practice and morphed it into a tradition based on their own beliefs and values and that is how most of us come to celebrate our birthdays today.  Simple as that.

My birthday has always been made an incredibly special day for me. My family makes me feel loved everyday but that day in particular I feel especially adored. We have celebrated in many different ways, each perfect in it’s own way. I love the presents of course, but I have always felt my birthday meant more than that- it meant spending the entire day with my family and friends. It meant laughter and lots of food and usually a shenanigan or two. It still means that. But after this last birthday it means more, yes, I was hurt by the people who forgot, but I also felt incredibly loved by the people who remembered. Do I have an exact definable reason why birthdays mean so much to us or why it’s so important that people remember? No. But I know they do mean a lot, they are important, but it is more important to celebrate with the right spirit- one that is joyful and thankful for those who remembered and not downhearted because of those who forgot- the right spirit in giving and getting. Yes, a happy spirit is essential, you wouldn’t want those evil spirits for which birthday celebrations were originated taking advantage of you.

The Road Was Not Really A Road

It has become apparent to me, in the past couple of weeks, that my life is a series of random events that are seemingly unconnected and unrelated to one another, and yet they make up this bizarre and typically pleasant life of mine. My paths are not really paths. The road isn’t a road at all.

I had a devastation a few days ago. A complete and total devastation that resulted in two days of crying and a box of donuts. And then, on the third day I was somehow saved quite unexpectedly. It hasn’t necessarily lessened my sadness over what happened before, but it has acted like a balm on my heart and soul. I feel so unusual. Happy and sad at the same time- I’ve never experienced that. It’s surreal but a soft satisfying kind of feeling. If it was a color it would be lavender.  If it was a sensation I would say it was like hiking in a hot and humid forest all day and then slipping into a cool and clean pond of water- completely silent and still but full of life.

I feel like I’m looking at my life in a completely different way and yet it’s the same. I can see all the not really paths and not really roads and they all connect but in unexpected and unique ways. In my imagination I picture them as the dirt roads and paths I loved so much in Uganda (and these certainly qualify as not really paths and not really roads). Somehow, I love it.

Oh! I also wanted to say that I think everyone should listen to the following bands because their music is sublime and sees me through life’s devastations and joys.

Marina and the Diamonds.

Florence and the Machine.

Band of Horses.

The Temper Trap.

Whole Foods is My Happy Place

I’ve grown up in Austin, Texas. Because I’ve grown up here that means I have a certain number of characteristics that is true of most if not all Austinites.

1. I live for live music.

2. Kerbey Lane cafe is one of my favorite restaurants.

3. If it was warm enough I would kayak on Town Lake everyday of my life.

4. Whole Foods is my happy place.

That last characteristic is the subject of my blog today. I have always been a Whole Foods devotee. They have the best floral section of any grocer around (with the exception of our fabulous Farmer’s Market) and that counts for quite a lot in this flower lovers book. Their produce is organic, often locally grown, and delicious. They also have 10 times as many groceries for vegetarians than most stores, and since I’m a vegetarian, that matters. All of these things add up to making Whole Foods a very happy place for me.

Recently, I have discovered their vitamin section. Now, I have never been much of a vitamin taker but I have always preferred taking herbal or natural supplements instead of chemicals. I have been having some pretty major anxiety attacks lately, due to some of the craziness that is my life currently. When I say major, I mean, can’t eat, can’t sleep, so upset you break out in hives kind of anxiety. I decided after about a month of this that enough was enough. I was loathe to go to the doctor (as usual) so I spoke to a friend who knows a bit about alternative medicine. She recommended taking liquid vitamin B. So I did a some research (because I love to research!) and decided I should try it out. Not only because of my anxiety but because as a vegetarian I get little to no vitamin B. So I went to the vitamin section of Whole Foods. I was completely overwhelmed at first, there were multiple aisles and tons of shelves of vitamins and herbal supplements. I wasn’t in a hurry so in addition to grabbing myself some liquid vitamin B, I looked around and read about some of the other vitamins and herbs sold there. It was amazing. There is an herb for everything! And this isn’t something new, so many ancient civilizations (including the Greeks) used herbs for medicinal purposes and to great effect.  It was one of the most pleasant hours I have spent in a long time. I was learning things, I had the lovely smell of the floral section to delight me, and I felt like I was taking control of my health. I walked out of there with some liquid vitamin B and Valerian Root, a wonderful little herb that treats everything from sleeplessness to stomach aches.

Guess what? They work! Honestly, I was a bit skeptical at first, but I can say they have really helped me. I am sleeping fitfully thanks to the Valerian Root, and have 3 times as much energy as usual thanks to the vitamin B. As far as my anxiety is concerned, it is practically non-existent, although I should say that could be because I am sleeping so much better and my energy is so high. I just all over feel better and both of these are made in vegetarian friendly forms so I don’t have to sacrifice my beliefs.

Whole Foods is my happy place- my happy happy place . If there is one near you, go there, and experience the happy.

The Cultural Exchange

I find myself thinking more and more of Uganda lately. It’s been two years since my last trip and almost four since my first. I miss it dearly and as it seems I won’t be able to travel there for another year, I am thinking about some of my most cherished memories of my time there. The following happened in 2006 during my first trip to the Pearl of Africa.

It was my first solo trip from the village where I lived in Nsumba to the nearest town with internet access and chocolate, Mukono. I was a bit nervous because I had never navigated the taxis and wandered around Mukono on my own before that and it was only my second week in Uganda. The nerves were for nothing though, as I had no problems at all finding my way to Mukono, using the internet, and grocery shopping. I was sitting in the taxi on the return trip, (I say sitting but it was more like perching because though the taxis are only supposed to hold 14 people this particular one  had more like 23 and there was very little room for sitting properly), daydreaming away as usual when I realized we had made one of the many stops taxis make along their routes. At this particular stop vendors would come up to the windows of the taxi and sell things like roasted maize and roasted sweet bananas. A little boy sitting between me and his Mother reached into his worn trousers and pulled out a couple hundred Ugandan shillings. With a hundred shillings you could buy one roasted sweet banana, he bought two. I smiled at him because he looked so proud to be buying something with his own money. He smiled back and offered me one of his roasted bananas. I was shocked. He had just spent all his pocket money on two sweet bananas and he wanted me to have one. Perhaps it sounds silly but never in my life have I felt more honored. He continued to insist that the Mzungu next to him should have one of his purchased sweet bananas. His Mother looked at me and smiled and I could see the pride she had in her generous and tender hearted son. I accepted the banana, the first I had ever eaten roasted. It was delicious. Every bite tasted better than the last and as I finished it my heart felt like it would burst from the emotion I was feeling. Here was this little boy who was growing up with so much less than I ever did and he wanted to give something to me. I remembered my groceries at that moment and realized I had two large bottles of coca-cola. I offered him one. His Mother refused and told me it was too much but I insisted. She accepted the bottle from me and opened it with her teeth, which I though was particularly impressive. She handed it to her son and he took a long drink. His eyes lit up and he thanked me over and over again. Wa bali nyo. Wa bali nyo. The little boy’s Mother told me he had never had Coca-Cola before. In my entire life I have never felt so connected to this world as I did then. In that moment, which took almost no time at all, my entire being felt peaceful and blissful. It was the absolute perfect exchange of cultures. Roasted sweet banana for a Coca-Cola. We didn’t speak the same language, didn’t even know each other’s names but in that moment we were so connected to one another. That sweet child gave to me without expecting anything in return and I don’t think he could ever know exactly how much it was that he gave me, it was so much more than a banana. Whenever I am having a dark day I think about that moment, that brief beautiful moment, and I feel the shadow of what I felt then and it is more than enough to keep me going. To this day there is nothing that tastes so sweet to me as a roasted banana.